I think success has different meanings for different people. For some, it’s having lots of money and a fruitful career. For some, it’s happiness and marriage and family life. For me, it’s both.
I feel like still, in 2018, wanting a successful career as a young woman is seen as not the done thing. I think people still associate high flying careers with men. Men are still seen as the breadwinners. I’m not saying that they can’t be – the men in my life like my boyfriend and my dad work bloody hard and I wouldn’t dispute that for a second – I’m just saying, women can be breadwinners as much as men can.
I’ve often wondered if age has a lot to do with this, too. There’s been many a time throughout the duration of my career so far that I’ve felt belittled or dismissed for being young. It seems that often, people feel that ‘a young woman like [me]’ shouldn’t be in a full time job. I should be travelling. I should be ‘living life’. I should be ‘doing stupid things and getting drunk all the time’. Some people do do that and they love it. Some people are well-travelled and cultured and benefit hugely from that. Some people my age have far better social lives than I do. But that’s OK: it’s not what I want to do. I want to work.
Women are ‘supposed to be’ nurturing, caring and family orientated by nature. I like to think that I am all of those things. Why can’t I have a successful career, too? At some point I want a child. I want to get married and I want family life. But with all that, I want to be fierce. Determined, ambitious and fierce. I want to earn, to be successful, to dress well, to look well, to be well. To continue with ambition, determination, drive and a constant strive for better and let me tell you this: being a woman will never stop me. If anything, it gives me even more drive. Girls need positive, ambitious female role models and that’s what I will be for any future daughter – or son – that I may be lucky enough to have.