10 Truths of a Long-Term Relationship

Attachment.
I’m the worst for this. My boyfriend and I have been together pretty much every night since we’ve been together, and he pretty much lives at my house now. One night on my own, and I get so bored and lonely. Most people would probably be like yay I’ve got the whole bed to myself! Not me. He recently went away for four nights and the thought of it literally made me anxious for a couple of weeks beforehand. What was I going to do with all that free time?! How boring.

You develop your own secret language.
This language becomes so normal to you that it becomes part of your usual vocabulary and you struggle to not let the odd word creep out when speaking to someone that’s not your other half.

Bodily functions are no secret.
Remember when you first got together and oh my gosh ladies don’t fart or burp!? Those days are long gone. You might even have competitions.

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Being able to say things to each other that would seriously offend anyone else.
You can happily tell your partner that their new jumper is a hideous colour or that the dress they’ve been eyeing up for weeks would never suit them. You’re brutally honest and have no shame. Our ‘pet names’ aren’t sweetie and darling, they’re far too soppy. We’re all about butthead and shitface. Who said romance was dead?

You’re a team.
This person is your best bud. You look out for each other, have each other’s backs and come as a pair.

Telepathic communication.
You can speak to each other with just a look. This is great for dinner parties or when you’re out in a group – we sometimes do it just for a laugh.

At (at least) one point you will literally start to question your sanity.
Am I actually this much of a bitch? Am I alright?

Your future plans will totally change.
You have a whole other person to consider now, and you don’t want to do anything without them. Compromise.

Many, many memories.

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The realisation that being with anybody else would be very difficult. How do you even date?
Starting again? No thanks. Then I wouldn’t be able to use words from our secret language or act like a total nutcase without worrying.

 

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  1. Skinporium
    May 6, 2016 / 10:46 am

    Aw, this reminds me of me and my hubby so much. Neither of us were particularly co-dependent at all until we met. Now we’re totally inseparable. I worry it’s a little unhealthy but he’s my partner in absolutely everything and it’s just our natural rhythm. Also, his nickname is usually Bum Face :p x Anna | http://www.skinporium.co.uk

  2. May 6, 2016 / 4:33 pm

    Oh my gosh I LOVED this post!!! I can totally relate to pretty much all of these! I’ve been with my boyf nearly two years but lived together for pretty much the whole time. When you know, you know I suppose *cringe* lol! Love the best bud one, anything that happens you approach as a team it’s like taking on life but with a partner in crime. I hate being apart it’s just weird. Lovely little post 😀 made me smile xxx Imogen // http://www.miniaturemilk.wordpress.com xx

  3. May 6, 2016 / 5:19 pm

    These are all so so true!! If someone overheard me and Dan having a conversation they wouldn’t have a clue what was going on! Our secret language is full of inside jokes that have been accumulated over the years xx

  4. June 6, 2016 / 3:10 pm

    This is very true. It also is true for many types of relationships outside of dating/significant other. I have like two friends I’m constantly in communication with via iMessage and if one of us doesn’t answer within a couple of hours it is like, “Where did you go?!” Humans are creatures of habits and routines. 🙂

    S .x http://ramblingsofayoungprgirl.blogspot.com

  5. June 9, 2016 / 2:20 pm

    Aaww this is lovely Hannah how cute!!!! =D It’s making me all soppy now….haha! Loved this post sweetie please do more of it! xoxo

  6. August 23, 2016 / 5:08 pm

    Awh this post is so cute and I can relate with every point. We always joke about our telepathic communication as we are champions at the game Articulate. Unbeatable together yet if separated we are both terrible. Nobody can understand us but us!

    Rhi | shylittlemess.com

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