Have a routine – not necessarily for every single thing you do in your life – small changes can make a big difference. For example, I hate mornings. I can never get up on time and I’m always late for work which means a morning of stress and running around, as well as no time for breakfast. In order to make this a bit easier, I now get out my clothes for the following day each evening before I go to bed and have a stock of porridge oats in my desk drawer. No more mornings spent aimlessly searching through my clothes, ending up with a floordrobe, and no time for breakfast? That’s fine, I can have it when I get to work.
Set yourself realistic goals and pro-actively try to reach them. Give yourself something to aim for and think about ways of getting there. My main goal for 2016 is to reach 1000 followers on Twitter and 6000 page views by 23rd December – a year since I started the blog. I can’t expect that to happen when I sit on my butt and don’t blog or promote my posts for weeks – you have to want it and pro-actively seek results. Some will read that and laugh their heads off. 6000 page views in a year? Some get that in a day. And that’s fine, I’m new to blogging and haven’t quite found my feet yet.
Don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle – Jon Acuff
Get yourself a hobby. This is a great way of having a bit of you time and doing something that you enjoy as well as meeting like-minded people. For me, this came from blogging and I find that blogging in general makes me more positive purely because I love it. Find something that you love and stick with it.
Kindness. It’s so simple. How can you be negative if you’re being kind to people? I’m not saying that you should jump on every person you see in excitement and thank them for their existence, just smile at a stranger or tell the Starbucks barista that you hope they have a good day. Chances are they’ve been standing there for hours serving coffee to grumpy, rude or in-a-rush customers and you have the power to brighten their day even slightly. If you can, why wouldn’t you? As well as this, be kind to yourself. We are taught to be kind to others but not ourselves and this is really important. Treat yourself once in a while.
Having a soft heart in a cruel world is courage, not weakness – Katherine Henson
Get rid of negative influences. That one friend who only comes to you when something goes wrong and is all drama? Say goodbye. That boy who cheated on you and made you cry yourself to sleep for weeks? Cut all ties. That job that makes you feel sick to your stomach and dread going every morning? Leave. Life is too short.